Several weeks ago we went to Munchkins new psychiatrist. They suggested we take a TOVA test that measures the degree of attention variant. When it came back she was 3 degrees below. He suggested a stimulant, which I was not in love with the idea. We did try it for a week, against my gut, and her side affects were so bad we discontinued. To be honest I was relieved. Our goal is to minimize our needs for medication, not increase them.
If you have a child struggling with ADHD, Mood issues, or anxiety then this recipe is for you. In our approach to help our child, we look to adding as much holistic options as possible BEFORE we look to medications. Our daughter has been on stimulants before when she was attending private school. However, her body does not respond well to them and the side effects far out weigh the potential improvement in her focus. With that being said, I set out to create a tasty treat that would help her better better focus, stay calm, and improve her mood.
One of the things I have learned being a special needs parent is that being open and flexible can make for much happier and calm days.
Keep in mind that HOW your child works may differ than what you are use to...and that is completely okay. Which means when they come to you with, what you think, is an odd request...be open and flexible to what they are asking.
About 4 years I was sitting in my kitchen on a Saturday morning. I had been working on bills when I broke down in tears. I had tried for so long to try to make the ends meet and I couldn’t. I could no longer carry the burden of our financial situation by myself. Every time I would work on bills I would become depressed, frustrated, and angry. I would resent every time my husband would spend any money on even the smallest amount.
In the past we tried Littlest Passports as way to introduce some culture to Samantha. Well, over time she simply out grew it and I was looking for something else. Luck would have it that this subscription service was mentioned in one of my private Unschooling groups. I looked into it and figured this was worth a try...why?
Because I know 2 things about my daughter.
Before the start of every year, I choose a word. One word that I want to define the upcoming year. You would think selecting this word would be easy, but it is not. See, this word needs to encompass all your goals, dreams, and hope for the upcoming year. This word will become your mantra for the year. This one word will be your guiding light for how hard you'll work going forward. It has to be just right.
My words of the past years have been;
2016 - Breathe
A couple of weeks ago, I asked parents what the biggest issue their child was struggling with. Almost everyone said focus and concentration. With that said, I thought I would take this opportunity to share my thoughts with you on ways to help you re-frame your thoughts surrounding focus and ways you can help your child focus.
Sometimes you need help with a specific issue you are dealing with. In this video I asked my special needs parenting community what questions and situations they need the most help on. Here are the questions they asked and we are going to tackle:
Question #1: How to help my child with ADHD with their schoolwork?
I don't know about you, but I couldn't stand when my mother nagged me as a child. It was a constant stream of reminders of how to act, what not to do, or simply a way to suck all the fun out of being a kid - or so I thought until I became a parent. I now understand why my mother had to remind me to do something at least a thousand times. Now, with the struggles we face on a daily basis, I tread a fine line between helping my child remember and being a huge nag.
When your child is in meltdown mode, seconds seem like minutes, and minutes seem like hours. It horrible. The screaming, the yelling, the kicking. As parents with a child who constantly struggles on a daily basis these meltdowns are exhausting and so emotionally charged that it affects everyone in your home. Maybe you have tried a few things, but nothing seems to work. (That was us too). Over the last 6 years of addressing Samantha's issues we have become very, very, very good at turning her from meltdown mania to a happy girl.